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So I was in a lousy mood this morning. A shoot canceled on me, his mother in law died, so I couldn't really ask him to pay my cancellation fee (what kind of ogre does that?) but I'm in the hole for this trip now and I was feeling shitty. ....then I got a nasty email from some holier-than-thou douche. They say to exercise when you feel down, and I've got to say nothing cheers you up like the physical exertion of ripping someone a new asshole. I feel great now!

*Note, in his email, he's referring to the post on my personal pay site where I apologize for the temporary discontinuing of updates, as I've been having, "personal/mental health problems". On one of my modeling profiles I wrote that I've been having health problems due to a sudden reaction to my birth control implant. And that's all I've said publicly, so you can understand how this makes him an expert on me.

His email:

U must learn to disappoint people-your idiot generosity has fuked u up-wake up!

Hi Isobel,
i have watched your progression into hell over the last three years. First let me say i DO NOT want to take your picture, nor meet you or want anything from you now. I am a Buddhist am i am reaching out to you to offer a sane voice by email that you can communicate with.
You must learn to disappoint people. I think you put yourself in a horrible situation and got tortured because of your willingness to please which caused your complete mental brakedown.I imagine this did mess with your head and still on your blog you are saying,"sorry to disappoint you".
You fuked up fueled by easy money and put yourself into some sort of hell realm. there is always a way out of this so don't lose hope say NO to this lifestyle, you already closed that easy door of the town to town nerdy nudey traveling thing even if you don't realize this yet.
here is what a Rinpoche has to say about IDIOT GENEROSITY:

...super long quote removed...

So really wake up gal, you have tasted your own personal hell now and its time for a fresh start. get out of this shit and start over, reinvent yourself, but not in a "take my picture" sort of way.
If you want to talk i can help as buddhism is about overcoming mental distress and stopping personal suffering. there are no GODS in Buddhism, its about your own mental landscape and i could be of some service. i never want to meet you personally, just so you know I want nothing from you but to help.
dave.

My reply:
"Dear" Dave,

You are an idiot and an asshole who can't even spell or punctuate correctly. How on earth do you ever expect someone to take your shitty, inappropriate, unsolicited critiques well if you can't even write?

I only have a few things to say to you and I'm only going to say them once before I block your address, so let's hope you read better than you write.

First of all, you don't know a damned thing about me so you cannot even begin to presume to judge me or my mental condition. You know "Isobel Wren", my stage persona, who is only a partial construct of the real me. It just so happens that my mental disorder has nothing to do with modeling. It's a long term, managed condition that I have had ever since I was a child (which flares up from time to time, especially when I lose my health insurance and can't afford to pay for the medication temporarily). Why on earth you'd just assume that I'd had a mental breakdown is beyond human understanding. You had no evidence to go on and it is callous and cruel for you to presume to know.

Secondly, don't presume that you know what I would like and dislike. The phrase, "one man's trash is another man's treasure" applies here. You say you've been watching my career for three years. Isn't it possible that you've been watching me advance, get more opportunities in my chosen field and grow? Isn't it likely that if I keep getting farther in, I've chosen and in fact enjoy this field and the direction I've gone in? Modeling and acting is hard work and there are few opportunities. I've fought hard for every step I've taken "into hell". Clearly I want to be here. The only deception taking place here is in you. In your own language, "wake up"! You're an even bigger asshole than I thought you were if you're simply watching me, hoping that I, "[progress] into hell" and I suspect that nobody on the planet could be that big of an asshole, so we both know what you were really doing whilst watching me. I suggest you get some therapy for this desire you have to trash those who you are attracted to.

Third, "I'm sorry to disappoint you" is called good customer service. It's like, "I'm sorry for the inconvenience", not some proof of a non-existent mental deficiency, you presumptive asshole.

Lastly, it's funny, but I don't remember seeing, "write an unsolicited critique of a total stranger's lifestyle and mental health" in the tenets of Buddhism when I studied them. I'm sure that the righteousness of the eightfold path does not include being self righteous. I believe that the Judeo-Christian Zealots have that under control and I'm very sad to see you bringing self-righteousness into one of the most humble religions.

Never do this to anyone again, it's not 'helpful', it's 'holier-than-thou'
Isobel

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deadcat_vagrant From: [info]deadcat_vagrant Date: May 4th, 2009 10:10 pm (UTC) (Link)
*stands up on box and applauds*
foxglovehp From: [info]foxglovehp Date: May 4th, 2009 10:10 pm (UTC) (Link)
What a dick! I love your comeback, though I am not sure I would have spent that much time and energy on the asshole.

For me, I'd love to shoot you again. I have been following your progress for the past three years or so with interest and think it is wonderful you are doing what you enjoy. And you are good at it!

Hey, I sent you an invite to a community I moderate through my alter-ego LJ account. I think you might like it.
world_rim_walke From: [info]world_rim_walke Date: May 5th, 2009 01:57 pm (UTC) (Link)
I love that use of "shoot".
foxglovehp From: [info]foxglovehp Date: May 5th, 2009 07:55 pm (UTC) (Link)
Oh, er... wups! "do a shoot with..."?

Better?
world_rim_walke From: [info]world_rim_walke Date: May 5th, 2009 07:59 pm (UTC) (Link)
I don't think there's anything wrong with that use of "shoot"; I wasn't being sarcastic when I said that I love that use.

I used to enjoy running around conventions asking people if I could shoot them.
foxglovehp From: [info]foxglovehp Date: May 5th, 2009 08:31 pm (UTC) (Link)
I hear ya.

And I loved shooting Isobel. She's such a joy to work with! I'd love to again, though I suspect I am not the caliber of photographer she is looking for these days. Still...

Isobel, if you are ever in the area...

Edited at 2009-05-05 08:32 pm (UTC)
yukimi From: [info]yukimi Date: May 4th, 2009 10:37 pm (UTC) (Link)
I'm not sure he is going to be able to read something that's spelled correctly and uses punctuation.
bardicwench From: [info]bardicwench Date: May 5th, 2009 01:24 am (UTC) (Link)
*huggles* Yay! I love when people give you such an easy way to rip into them... ^_^
lady_katt_26 From: [info]lady_katt_26 Date: May 5th, 2009 02:39 am (UTC) (Link)
Wow. Just. Wow.

You rock. :)
gwalkmaur From: [info]gwalkmaur Date: May 5th, 2009 03:06 am (UTC) (Link)
*applauses* For that, you deserve an awesome butterfly.
world_rim_walke From: [info]world_rim_walke Date: May 5th, 2009 02:08 pm (UTC) (Link)
Maybe he's a fundamentalist of a Judeo-Christian sect who converted to Buddhism. I thought an evangelical Buddhist would be more amusing than that, something along the lines of "You should do the right thing because otherwise you'll have to come back and try again until you do the right thing". The fact that he's been watching you for three years seems odd for such a "devout" Buddhist who has such distaste for your chosen field. At least he provided you with a pick-me-up.
incontango From: [info]incontango Date: May 5th, 2009 03:19 pm (UTC) (Link)
I don't understand the way some people work. But I suppose I don't really need to, especially when other folks (like you) lay the smack down on them.
dclaudekatz From: [info]dclaudekatz Date: May 5th, 2009 10:28 pm (UTC) (Link)
I don't think Buddhism is any more humble than Christianity, or that Buddhists are any less self-righteous than Christians. It all depends on the approach that a particular individual, or a particular group, takes to the religion. The Buddhist scriptures are a lot longer than the Christian scriptures, which gives them even more opportunity to contradict themselves and to open themselves to differing interpretations. Most Buddhist sects (though maybe not here in the West) condemn "lust" even more harshly than do most Christian sects. [Insert obligatory pun on the word "sects"] How one interprets the teachings, how one sets priorities among them, and how one goes about trying to bring others to salvation/liberation, is largely a matter of personal style. This guy is obviously rather an ineffective missionary. Too bad for the Buddhists that they don't have Ruth Carter.
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